Marriage Isn’t For You
A blog went viral the other day that talks about the reasons why people should get married. From the subject title you would likely think the post would be someone who recently got divorced, it’s not. It’s a really well thought out post and a great reminder to remember what’s really important to you.
The guy who wrote this unconventional love letter, Seth Adam Smith, published this online Saturday and watched as it spread like wildfire.
I definitely thing him starting it off “Having been married only a year and a half,” the 27-year-old writes, “I’ve recently come to the conclusion that marriage isn’t for me.” Probably helped garner some attention:)
My favorite part is his father’s response to telling him he was nervous about marrying his high school sweetheart. He was filled with a paralyzing fear. “Was I ready? Was I making the right choice? Was Kim the right person to marry? Would she make me happy?”
His Dad then said…
“Seth, you’re being totally selfish. So I’m going to make this really simple: marriage isn’t for you. You don’t marry to make yourself happy, you marry to make someone else happy. More than that, your marriage isn’t for yourself, you’re marrying for a family. Not just for the in-laws and all of that nonsense, but for your future children. Who do you want to help you raise them? Who do you want to influence them? Marriage isn’t for you. It’s not about you. Marriage is about the person you married.”
Sadly, I know I don’t often enough think of my romantic and non-romantic relationships in these terms. What Seth’s father says below makes a lot of sense – even if you’re not currently in a relationship.
“My father’s advice was both shocking and revelatory. It went against the grain of today’s “Walmart philosophy”, which is if it doesn’t make you happy, you can take it back and get a new one.”